The ‘I am No Good’ – SYNDROME


Ever wondered what we have become now is a factor of what our near and dear ones have been telling us what we are?

Don’t think so?

Hmm… Lets see.

How many time have you been told by your parents that you should not do this as you WONT be able to do it! (see the irony? how can you learn to DO it if you are not allowed to TRY?)… See what I mean?

Don’t go near the water or you will drown! But then how can you learn to swim if you are not allowed in the water?

You cant ride that bicycle or you will fall! Logical, isn’t it?

I have seen a number of people cursing themselves that he/she has never been good at this or that… but what they don’t realize is most of the ‘limiting belief’ has been pushed down on them at a very early age…By people that LOVE and CARE for them…

With all the due respect to our elders, sometime they unknowingly do or say things that changes a child’s mindset, most of the times – forever. And all this because they love us and know ‘what is best for us’.
If only they knew…
I am sure you have examples of two brothers or sisters in a family… one of them is exceptionally bright and the other one is dumb. Ever realized that in most of the cases, the one who is called ‘dumb’ has been called that ever since anyone can remember… Why? Because Grandma, Grandpa, Uncle or Aunt stamped that word on him/her and now it is merely a self-fulfilling prophecy!
On the other hand, the ‘bright’ or ‘intelligent’ brother has been repeatedly told that he is smarter than the rest of the clan… and Lo and Behold: He IS!

Enough evidence has been around to confirm that children who have been repeatedly told that they are brilliant, become so and vice versa.

So now… the real question:

What is your limiting belief?

Is it the fear of succeeding, leaving a secured job for something that is close to you heart, doing well in life. public speaking, making friends, taking on a hobby or a passion, plain old succeeding, taking on a challenge, being happy with your life?

or plain old:

‘I AM NO GOOD’-Syndrome?

Think about it…What is stopping you… LIMITING YOU

NOTHING CAN or SHOULD stop you from what you want to achieve… 

Have a great, fulfilling life!

Nuruddin Abjani

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